Let me share with you all the story of a friend that would pretty much make us see the importance of our health as wives, and most especially, as mothers.

I have just recently given birth to a beautiful baby girl. While I was pregnant, I had to give up my work because it was my first time and I really found it difficult to deal with the pressure of the pregnancy, and I don’t want my working adding more to that. After giving birth, I was horrified that my tummy still hasn’t shrunk back to the way it was. Well, I really did not expect it to go back just like before, but I expected it to at least shrink a little. Yet, it was still very big, like I only went back to the time when I was 5 months pregnant.

The OB Gynecologist said that this was normal. That usually the stretched out tummy of a recently pregnant woman will slowly shrink in 6 months after giving birth. As I took that in, feeling dismayed that I couldn’t get my pre-pregnancy, sexy cheerleader abs back just yet, the doctor bombarded me with even more bad news. She said I should not do any physical activities of any sort nor stress myself out. I should rest for at least 3-4 months and do mundane tasks only. I was taken aback. That long without exercise? How about work? She further explained that it was my first time so longer rest should be given to the body.

So, there I was, with a flabby stomach, and with physical restrictions and unemployed. Good thing my baby girl feels so warm that even though the news bothered me badly, I’m still thankful for a healthy baby angel.

For days, friends came and went to see my precious child and everyone kept telling me to stay healthy for my baby girl.

For some reason, I disobeyed my OB. I went ahead and jogged one morning, and let me tell you, it was the worst decision ever. I almost passed out in the street. Thankfully I had enough will power to make it back to our house, where I then passed out. My husband had to leave work and head home to check on me. I was really embarrassed by my behavior and for causing trouble. Since then, I stayed away from strenuous activities and focused on my daughter.

Good thing we have a good internet and phone service, so what I did during the times when I had nothing better to do, was to browse the Internet for new recipes, for tips on parenting, for home hacks, and even, for simple yoga exercises that woman can do post-pregnancy.

If there was anything I learned that I want to share, it is the fact that while we thought that being a wife was already a big challenge, becoming a mother is a totally different kind of extra challenge. It has its own sets of demands and sacrifices, and we have to be selfless enough to understand that it is not about just us now, but more about the child and what is best for her. I had to give up on making myself feel sexy because if I get sick trying to be who I was before getting pregnant, then I would be risking my health, which would also greatly affect my daughter.